hellyes.
So, I have this friend. And she's getting married this weekend. (HOLLA!)
This friend happens to be Indian, and one cultural aspect of such weddings is that her fellow Indian family and friends do a dance for the bride and groom.
It just so happens that she, and I, and a bunch of our friends were part of an Indian dance troupe in college.
And since then, she, and I, and our friends have been dancing at each other's weddings (well, not mine, because I'm not married yet, but you get the point).
So of course, I started talking about doing a dance in the first week of November. My other friend, we shall call him Hat, is the organizer of these dances- he finds the music, choreographs, and gets everyone on board, so he was my first (and only, really) contact. He seemed all about it-- until December. First, he said that he had finals (hes in grad school)- totally understandable. He said he would get it together over Christmas break.
Cool.
On Christmas Day he emails me saying that he has an unplanned family vacation until Jan 1, but will choreograph and send all the participants a video of the dance on Jan. 2. At this point, I'm getting nervous, because the wedding is on Jan 14th. And, I could have easily created a dance because I was off the week between Christmas and New Year. But he says he's going to do it, so I believe him.
Then I don't hear from him. So on Jan. 4 I check in....to which he replies "It's getting late...maybe we should just scrap the whole thing."
SCREEEEEEEEEEEEECH.
Excuse me, WHAT??
"That is not an option," I tell him. "First of all, she already thinks we're doing a dance*. Second, we do a dance for everyone, and she participates, and now it's her wedding and we have to dance! So get it together!!"
He agrees to contact the crew, and get back to me. When he does (later that night), it's only to tell me that no one is willing to do a dance. "Some people wouldn't even let me get the whole request out before they said no."
I try to say that even if we just have 4 people- me, him, his gf, and one other- we could still do it. He says no, it's too late.
So I'm upset. Obvi. Because I know she's going to be upset, and if it were mine, I would be upset too. I would be thinking, all these people that I did dances for their weddings, now won't do one for mine? That's bull.
But then C has an idea-- maybe I could put together a video montage of us doing past dances. Not bad, not bad at all. Not the real thing, but at least its something. Except, I don't have any of those videos, because they were on my laptop which was stolen right after college. So I ask Hat if he has any, and if not, to check with another friend. I hear nothing back again. 2 days later, he says he doesn't have anything and the other friend never got back to him.
So now, I'm done. I can't make people dance. I can't chase people down to make them do the right thing. I can only control my actions.
I'm gonna dance goshdarnit.
* She made me tell her in mid December if we were planning anything, because if we were, she needed to add it to the program and let the DJ know. So I told her yes, because at the time, I thought we were.
