Friday, May 27, 2011

Friday Fancies- Wine Country

Wine Country

Wine Country by lildesiqua featuring a ribbon hat

I joined up with {av} from {Long Distance Loving} for Friday Fancies!
This weekend I'm heading to North Fork, Long Island with a bunch of friends I haven't seen in awhile the day before our other friend's wedding. I'm super excited! The last time we went we had a blast, and this is the first time going with C.

Then on Monday, we have our friend's wedding. (Um P.S. who gets married on a Monday? Let alone Monday of Memorial Day Weekend?! Still not over that...) Should be a fun time though.

What are your weekend plans? Have a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend!

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

For C, Love Bob Marley



I love you C! Happy 2 1/2-ish years!

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Marry Me - Train


"Promise me
You'll always be
Happy by my side
I promise to
Sing to you
When all the music dies"

I may have mentioned this before, but a lot of my friends have recently gotten engaged. Over the weekend, I learned of three more engagements- and I'm happy for all of them! But not everyone is feeling the same...

Sunday night, I was having a "catch up" convo with one of my friends from high school. She was asking for advice as to whether she should stay with her boyfriend of a little over two years. As she explained, she wants to get married, have kids, and buy a house, and when she asked him last year if he could visualize them being married, he (looking like a deer caught in headlights) said no, and that he was scared.

She asked him again this year, with the exact same response.

He's just really happy with where they are. But he's 37, and she's 27. And she wants to move to the next level. Not right this second, but she would like some promise for the future, like getting engaged in the next year or two. She would at least like for him to be able to see them being happily married. And he simply said he couldn't do that.

I understand her point. Should she wait for him to come around? How long would it take for him to "be ready"? And though he treats her right and they're seemingly happy, she's always going to have this nagging feeling about them not moving forward, which could spoil the relationship. And she doesn't want to keep bringing it up either, she just wants him to have a different answer.

I respect the fact that he told her honestly what he feels about the whole thing. He could have easily lied to her just to shut her up appease her.
But- in the whole conversation- she never mentioned once that she wanted to be married to him. She said that she loved him, but nothing like he was "the one." Nothing like she couldn't or wouldn't want to be without him. There was nothing about him period. Well, except that she is dating him. And she can see herself married to him. And starting a family. I didn't ask her if she thought he would be a faithful husband (she thought he was cheating on her for about a month, more than once) or if he seemed like father material (she's never mentioned him interacting with kids in any capacity). So I don't know what would lead her to see herself with him long term, but I suppose she has her reasons.

I feel like her focus is off. Or maybe she just didn't express these thoughts to me and was trying to think rationally rather than emotionally. I just always assumed that if you were considering marrying someone, something should just "click" between you two. It would seem natural, and like you always knew each other. That you're able to work through difficult times together.You could make each other laugh, take care of one another and be there for each other.

But, maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic.

"Forever can never be long enough for me
To feel like I've had long enough with you."

Monday, May 23, 2011

Weekend Highlights

Friday, after running a few errands, I laid out on the couch "watching" Sister Wives and reading blogs while C played video games and every so often checked in on me. It was wonderful.

Saturday, I celebrated my great-aunt's 88th birthday.

Then went to my friend's new apartment to celebrate her 28th birthday/apartment warming. And played Jenga...

 Some Wii dancing...

 And watching...

And one of my favorite games EVER, Apples to Apples.

Me and bday girl, aka Vanilla Face!

Sunday I slept in, and then C made us breakfast. Then I took a nap :) Naps are goooood. Then he woke me up, and we went to Edison to pick up my sari for a wedding in two weeks and buy some jewelry. YAY. Here's a little sneak peek of both saris:



And we had Chipotle for dinner. I LOVE Chipotle. C never had it- I could tell by his completely cleaned off plate that he liked it!


And I've been seeing this little blue elephant teapot from the Calypso St. Barth line at Target *everywhere*. And I am in love. But it is sold out :(


I also just saw this:
A White Castle candle. Will make your home smell like greasy hamburgers. Yuuummm. {gag} But the proceeds got to Autism Speaks, so that's pretty awesome. Oh, and they're sold out. People will buy some crazy ish!


How was your weekend?
Happy Monday!

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Where'd My Money Go?


5/2  - 5/22


Bills
Cable: $211.11

Phone: $84.00
Loan Repayment: $310.00
Netflix: $5.34

Groceries: $60.00
Total: $670.45

Entertainment
$0 - went to the movies with Mom, free tickets




Shopping
$100 - Sari
$45.00 - Marshall's (part of Mom and BF Mother's Day Presents)
$33.60 - CVS Trip #1 (presents for Mom's Day)
$25.00 - CVS Trip #2 (hair shampoo/conditioner/thermal spray for Organix treatment)

$25.00 - CVS Trip #3 (cards for Mother's Day, Organix hair treatment)
$6.00 - Rite Aid (card for girlfriend, and nail polish)
$96.60 - Ulta (present for C's Mom and girlfriend's Bachelorette Party)
$26.54 - Borders (present for C's Mom and BF)
$1.06 - ITunes (had to purchasefor friend's dance)
$23.00 - NoMoreRack
$20.00 - Target (part of Mom's present)
$40.00 - Jewelry for sari
$16.05 - nose rings
$20.00 - birthday present
$22.00 - another birthday present
Total: $403.25

Other
$100.00 - wedding gift
$10.00 - take out

$30.00 - shipping presents
$10.00 - Chipotle
$37.00 - cab fare home
$8.00 - train fare difference to NYC
$8.00 - Metrocards
$200.00 - Florida
$80.00 - Eye Doctor (getting back $60, mystery shop)
Total: $508.00


Grand Total: $1581.70


I went way over budget for gifts. My budget for gifts was $150.00. I think (after the fact) that that was too low for 5 gifts. I mean only $30,...when the main holiday is Mother's Day? Unrealistic. Plus there were birthdays and a Bachelorette Party present I forgot to factor in.

Also, I tried to increase my income by taking a side gig as a mystery shopper. As you can see above, I wen tto the eye doctor. This was a good idea, but not successful in practice, because I actually will wind up spending $20 instead of making $60, due to using my eye insurance out of state. Hmph. Oh well, at least I did go to the eye doctor, whcih is something I would have put off otherwise.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Welcome Home Day 3 & 4

I've heard that there have been studies done proving that people's bodies are not truly relaxed until the 3rd day of vacation. Unfortunately for us, it rained the entire 3rd day! Actually, I shouldn't say that. We woke up late, met up with a friend, and got lunch in the hotel eatery. I had a meatball sub- it was kinda gross...too much oregano, not enough flavor in the actual meatballs, but whatever. Then we went to the rooms, got ready for the beach, and grabbed a cooler of beers. I was planning on a full day of tanning and swimming...fun in the sun!

We got on the beach, found the rest of our friends, and had just finished up slathering on sunscreen when the clouds rolled in. We literally watched them coming in over the ocean- it was pretty crazy. You looked in one direction  and it was all sunny, and turned the other way and could see rain in the distance, and the dark gray clouds coming straight for us.

"It's gonna go right past us- no worries!" C was saying. We tried to wait it out as others packed up and ran for the hills. We stayed until the first drops fell. Luckily, one of our friends had a room right on the beach (they're patio opened up onto it- pretty awesome) so at least 10 of us crowded in there. (The rest of the group went to someone else's room.) The girls sat, while the guys were either outside on the patio or staring out the sliding glass doors when it got really heavy.

"It's gonna last 10 minutes, and then it'll be all sunny again! That's how it is in Florida! " C was overly optimistic. I think we believed him until we saw huge rods of lightning and heard the rolling thunder. We repeated that saying the rest of the day, as the the rain poured down. Once we realized that it wasn't ending anytime soon- about 40 minutes later- we decided the only way to salvage the day was to hit up a bar!! We found a small empty one in the middle of one of the courtyards. Well, it was empty except for a bartender and this:


"AAAAaargghhh Matey!"

When we first walked in, he was posted against a far wall perfectly still. I seriously thought he was a statue....until he walked over to get his parrot! Oh yeah, this guy was serious. Unfortunately, I had left my camera in my friends room, and this was all C could get with the camera on his phone (mine didn't have zoom capabilities and I didn't want to be too obvious!). 

Eventually our other friends joined us- we had completely taken over the bar- it was awesome!

After about 6 hours of drinking, we decided maybe we should look into eating something. The group split up again- some went to a fancy restaurant 30 minutes away, we went across the street to an Irish pub, Paddy O'Sullivan's. We had a group of maybe 20 people- they weren't ready for us. I liked the food, but the waitresses did screw up a bunch of orders. Overall though, it was a fun time!

part of our group

see all those people behind me? that whole other room? that's our group too!

I remembered to take food pics! Here we have a burger with "queso fresco", smoked chipotle mayo, avocado, red onions, and banana peppers

mmm Red Stripe and sweet potato fries

he's no longer being "shy" but rather "incognito"...

And then we tried to go back and drink more at the hotel bar, but only got through about one before we were too tired.

Day 4 : Woke up, packed, got coffee, took cab to airport, and flew home. Pretty uneventful. 
Until we got home. 
I mentioned here that our apartment was getting renovated while we were away. Our kitchen and bathroom looked completely different, in a good way! We got new cabinets, appliances, a mantle over our fireplace, and new blinds. Also, C's mom had gotten us some groceries, a new shower curtain, new pillows, made the bed, vacuumed and dusted everything! So everything was nice and clean, and we were able to put most of our stuff away. 

We still have about a box's worth of plastics bags with "stuff" in them, because drawers that used to be in our kitchen and bathroom weren't there when we got back! So we're still working on it, but overall, the renovations came out great, and we had a wonderful little getaway!

Friday, May 20, 2011

Video Friday!

I'm minorly obsessed with Jersey Shore- as in I love it. But I also love making fun of it, and other people making fun of it. I found this video at The Sexy Armpitit's "a mash up of Jersey Shore and Broadway's The Importance of Being Earnest courtesy of The Roundabout Theatre Company." Take a look!






Here's a little video I saw yesterday. It is SO SWEET- it definitely made me tear up a bit!! Hope you enjoy! Happy Friday!


Thursday, May 19, 2011

Currently...

I am linking up with Jenn from Perfectly Imperfect for a list of "Currents"!
Click on the link if you want to join too!


Current Book(s):
Just finished "Something Borrowed"!


Next up, back to "The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo"!




Current Playlist:
Adele- Rolling in the Deep
Sugarland- All I Wanna Do
Shakira- Rabiosa

Current Color:
Blue!

please excuse my ugly feet!

Current Drink:
Frappuccinos



Current Food:
Raspberry Strudels

We are snacking on them in the office!


Current Favorite Show:
Law & Order SVU! Season Finale!
I know it was last night, but I didn't get to watch it so I'm watching it tonight!

Current Wishlist:
Perfect Fitting Khakis and/or White Jeans, White Blazer


Current Needs:


Current Triumphs:
For some reason, my iPod didn't charge overnight. I was almost on zero power on my commute into work, and knew my power cord was home. Luckily, my coworker had one, so I didn't have to commute home in silence!

Current Banes of my Existence:

Ungrateful people

I was unable to attend my friend's baby shower, so I sent her a gift anyway. I made sure to get a tracking number so I knew that it got there ok. It did. Did I get a card/call/text/email? No.
Then it was my godson's birthday. I sent an awesome present (a big battery operated train, train tracks, special additions, and some clothes). Again, I got a tracking number to make sure it was delivered ok. I didn't hear anything from his mom (one of my bf's from college). I called her on Mother's Day to wish her a happy one, and she said nothing. So I finally asked if she got it. "Oh yeah," she says, "He loooooves it! He sleeps with it at night!" He loves it so much you couldn't call/text/email me to just let me know you got it? A possible "thank you"?!?
And I still haven't heard anything about the Mother's Day present I sent her. Hmph.

Current Celebrity Crush:
Colin Eggelsfield

Current #1 Blessing:
Friends, Family, and a Job!!


Current Indulgence:
Blogging!! I really don't have time to blog lately- I've been squeezing in at work (shh!) and sometimes at night (like now), which C doesn't like because that means I'm not paying attention to him! But I love it- maybe I'm just an over-sharer?!


Current Outfit:
Blue and white stripe button down
Gray pants- NY & Co.
Skinny black belt - came with a skirt
black flats - Charlotte Russe
Blue necklace - gift from C while vacationing in Cabo, Mexico


Current Excitement:
Watching SVU tonight, my friend's birthday/housewarming party tomorrow, and picking up my new sari on Sunday!

me and my buddy in a phone booth...in a bowling alley...
we're obviously as confused about this as you are.


Current Mood:
Happy!

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Welcome Home Day 2 - The Wedding Day

I would like to apologize in advance- this is a picture heavy post!

Day 2 was the Wedding Day...Friday the 13th!! Now I don't know about you, but I would never ever get married on Friday 13th. Yes I'm superstitious, but even if I wasn't, why tempt the fates?! But apparently the bride's favorite number is 13, so the 13th it was!

We spent the better half of the day lounging on the beach. I, however, was being a bit of a diva, and didn't want to go in the water and mess up my hair.{It takes a really long time to redo my hair once it gets wet, and the wedding was that night- I wasn't chancing it!} So I sat in my little cabana on the beach and read my mags.
Also, in my defense, I was wearing this skimpy bikini, and was worried about the waves {which were a little rougher than the day before} knocking it off and showing the world {and all of our friends} my goodies.

Anyway, then we changed and went to the wedding, which was at the hotel right next to ours. Actually, they were all under the same name, The Tradewinds



 
Cupcake cake! I would say it was delicious, but I didn't get one! :(

The hubby is Irish {note the shamrock on his arm in the pic where they are mixing the sands} and yet, somehow, I was the only person at the wedding who knew how to do the Irish jig! Me, the half Indian, half Puerto Rican! Ha!

Last Dance!

Stay tuned for Days 3 and 4 {there's not a lot more, promise}!

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Welcome Home!

Did you miss me? I missed you!!
{though it was kind of nice being disconnected for a little bit}

But I had a fantabulous time in Tampa Florida at my friend's wedding!
Except, it was too short...only 4 days. Boo.

We didn't have time to do too much, which was fine by me.
So I'm going to do a bit of a recap today and tomorrow.... Let's go!

Day 1:
  • left around 6:30AM, drive to our friends house, get ride with them to airport
  • saw a Taylor Ham truck on the way; C views this as a good sign
      
  •  had some issues with Continental not taking care of us when we try to check in, but get through without C losing it completely {not uncommon at airports!}
  •  3 hour flight- C sleeps, I read
  • arrived in Tampa, get in shuttle with extra-chatty driver....tells us about some places to see and eat
  • followed his advice and get grouper sandwiches at Dockside Dave's
  • {I meant to take a pic before I ate it, but it was too delicious!}
  • also grabbed some cases of beer while we were out- we figured resort prices would be ridiculous
  • we figured correctly
  • changed and got on the beach!
  • watched the sunset over the beach

  • changed again, showered, and met the wedding party people for happy hour(s)...had loads of fun
  • mom called...wound up chatting for too long...everyone thought I left {oops}
-fin Day 1-
Stay tuned for Day 2...the Wedding Day!

Learn Something New!

Life with the Dietrichs

What you do with this is you take the 6 questions from the post on Tuesday (the questions will be different every Tuesday), post them and answer them on your blog, then come back to link up your post! Then you can go check out the other blogs and LEARN SOMETHING NEW about them!

1. How old does someone have to be to be officially an ‘adult’ to you?
About 23, or graduate from college. That time when your mom and dad can't/shouldn't have to take care of you anymore, you get a job, pay your bills, and take responsibility for your actions. Or after your first hangover at work...you'll definitely learn after that!

2.Would you get along with someone who reminded you of yourself?
Probably. At least then they would understand my sarcasm without taking offense!

3. Did you ever seriously think that a monster was hiding under your bed?
For sure. It didn't help that I had a dog who would like to sneak under my bed and randomly paw out at my bare legs!

4. Did you ever have a black and white cat?
I've never owned a cat.

5. Last time you used hand sanitizer?
Sunday at the airport. Right after I ate....though in hindsight I should've done it before being that I ate a sub...oops.

6. Do you like wearing your hair up or down?

Up. It's a bit of a hassle wearing it down...always getting all up in my face. 


Link up with Life with the Dietrich's and/or What Would Jen Do to participate!

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Where'd My Money Go?


5/2  - 5/11


Bills
Cable: $211.11

Phone: $84.00
Loan Repayment: $310.00
Netflix: $5.34

Grocieries: $67.00
Total: $677.45
Entertainment
$0 - went to the movies with Mom, free tickets




Shopping$100 - Sari
$45.00 - Marshall's (part of Mom and BF Mother's Day Presents)
$33.60 - CVS Trip #1 (presents for Mom's Day)
$25.00 - CVS Trip #2 (hair shampoo/conditioner/thermal spray for Organix treatment)

$25.00 - CVS Trip #3 (cards for Mother's Day, Organix hair treatment)
$6.00 - Rite Aid (card for girlfriend, and nail polish)
$96.60 - Ulta (present for C's Mom and girlfriend's Bachelorette Party)
$26.54 - Borders (present for C's Mom and BF)
$1.06 - ITunes (had to purchasefor friend's dance)
$23.00 - NoMoreRack
$20.00 - Target (part of Mom's present)
Total: $401.80

Other
$125.00 - wedding gift
$10.00 - take out

$30.00 - shipping presents
Total: $165.00


Grand Total: $1244.25


I went way over budget for gifts. My budget for gifts was $150.00. I think (after the fact) that that was too low for 5 gifts. I mean only $30,...when the main holiday is Mother's Day? Unrealistic. Oh well, live and learn!
By the time this posts, I will be in sunny FLORIDA for my friend's wedding! So have a great weekend everyone!!