Happy Halloween!

Last time I dressed up for Halloween was 2 years ago, right after C and I officially started dating. I dressed up as a "Dirty Martini." At the time, I worked for a very small company think 20 people...literally) in NYC and my bff from college was at NYU. So I stayed late at work, until everyone had left, and told her to come over (like it was my apartment or sometihng...obviously I was a bit crazier then) and bring booze. So she did, and we finished getting ready, make up and such, drinking, and partying by ourselves in my empty office.

C was supposed to meet us, and we were supposed to see the Halloween Parade. But it was the same night of the Phillies World Series Parade. He was late. Very late. And I was pissed. Very pissed. And Cbff (college bff) got drunk. Very very drunk. By the time C arrived, Cbff was basically falling over herself. And we had completely missed the parade. But I was still in my "lovey dovey" stage, so as mad as I was, I still hung out with him.

I don't remember everything frmo the night, but I do remember that Cbff fell flat on her face on the sidewalk in NYC. I believe I laughed. Oops. She wasn't seriously injured...I think she was laughing too. Then we met up with some of C's friends, and I think went to his other friend's house party (did I mention I was drinking as well? Things are a bit fuzzy. Sorry!) It was lame. Then I remember standing on a street corner, and talking to Cbff. She wanted to hook up with C's friend, so I told C to tell his buddy that she was "DTF" (YAY Jersey Shore word usage!), and he was into it. But then she was all "OH noooooo I can't because it's that time of month! Omg I'm so embarassed!" but not really. Then she said she was going to go home, so his friend (being a gentleman,...and seeing how wasted she was) said that he would make sure she got home. So the rest of us went back to Hoboken and went to sleep.

We found out what happened to them the next day. Apparently, Cbff wasn't ready to go home just yet. She went to another bar. C's friend followed. At some point, he had to go to the bathroom, and told her to stay right where she was. But there was a line. So she went up to him in line, took his hat, and ran away.

Like, ran home- away.

He spent four hours trying to find her.

Poor, poor guy. I guess I should've warned him about that. But I thought she would at least get him home with her.

(I didn't have any full body shots. And give me some credit for the makeup under-eye thing, this was taken at the end of the night.)

(No pics of Cbbf. That would just be mean.)

Saturdaze

I was going to go off on a rant about how shitastic my week was, but no one wants to read that, and I don't really want to relive it. So I found this from Amy over at Turn to the Music. She's Irish, hence the weird (for Americans) spelling of favorite!

Questions:

1. What inspires you to blog?
Life!

2. What's the best thing about blogging, for you?
It gives me a platform to talk about and share whatever I want. Even an occasional rant. And without reservation, as only my bf and one friend actually know about this blog.

3. What is your favourite book of all time?
Hmmm. That would have to be a tie between Maniac Magee by Jerry Spinelli and The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini. Maniac Magee is up there more because I have a very vivid memory of my mom reading a part of it to me, which makes me smile. And The Kite Runner because it was just so well written and touching.

4. It's 9pm and for some reason you've been hungry all day, despite the three square meals. What do you rustle up?
If it's 9pm I'm probably just about to eat dinner, but let's play along and say I've already eaten. I would probably get a snack, like a piece of chocolate or some ice cream.

5. Who are three of your style icons?
I honestly can't think of three right now ( so not stylish). I like clean, classic styles, like Katie Holmes.

6. What's your current favourite song/piece of music?
Probably still "Hold Yuh" (remix) by Gyptian ft. Nicki Minaj- listen here:

• Hold Yuh (Remix) by Gyptian ft. Nicki Minaj
  

7. What's the last book you read?

I'm in the process of *trying* to get through The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. I've read maybe 10-15 pages, and so far, really don't like it. Which is probably why it's been sitting on my table for about 3 weeks now. Oops.

8. What is your current favourite recipe?
Umm pumpkin pie! So good!

Friday stuff

1. If you could be a fly on any wall, which would you choose?
I really don't know. I'm not sure I need to know everything about any one person. TMI.

2. Do you budget your Christmas shopping or just get it done without budgeting?
Usually I don't budget, but this year I'm trying to very hard! Orrr...to at least get my Christmas shopping done before Christmas Eve...baby steps...

3. What is the craziest fad diet you have ever done?
I can honestly say I've never been on any kind of diet.

4. Is there a TV show that you have seen every episode/season of?
Definitely "Lost." I'm pretty sure "Gilmore Girls" and "Law & Order SVU" as well.\

5. What one song always pulls at your heart?
"The Christmas Shoes Song" By Newsong. Gets me.every.time.

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Tonight, I plan on resting, and trying to get over this cold that has taken over my body.

Tomorrow, I need to run a few errands and make a few phone calls. Then, I'm going to NYC with 3 of my absolute favorite people to see Cypress Hill. I got C tix for our anniversary. Wheee!

Sunday, I plan on watching scary movies and handing out candies to tricker treaters.

Happy Halloween Weekend!

My Scorpio Man

Today is C's birthday! Woot woot! I'm sure he can't wait to get his presents, but he's going to have to...well at least for one. Last Christmas I made the *major* mistake of getting him an XBox 360. I never had a boyf who played video games before, so I didn't realize that I was just feeding the video gaming frenzy, when in fact if I hadn't bought it for him, I probably would have gotten him out of the habit! But I was trying to be a good girlfriend! ...I'm still paying for this mistake. Anywho, the game he wants just came out yesterday, so I pre-ordered it from a website and it should come in today! (All this means for me is that soon I will have a lot more time to blog!)

C falls into the "Scorpio" sign. I'm not sure if I believe in astrological signs completely, but he does. Or at least enough to get this tattoo:

Oh yeah. It actually looks pretty cool, and I'm very happy he didn't get a scorpion on himself- those things are creepy looking!

So anyway, in case you didn't know here are some common Scorpio traits:

- Very Intense. A Scorpio man goes at things full force. He may even go after you that way. This intensity may scare some women away at first as they may think he is just clingy or obsessive. Keep in mind that the Scorpio male cannot help this, and look at it from the perspective that he knows what he wants and doesn’t wait to get it. If he has chosen you, you can be assured that he has strong feelings for you. (This is very true. When he first wanted to date me, I had a different boyf. But he was relentless. He would call and try to plan dates, and no matter what I told him...and I tried many different thing, like saying I was uninterested, or he was crazy, or don't date me because I'm a bad gf...obviously if I was still talking to him and had a boyf... nothing would get him to stop. Guess his perservence worked out for the best though!)

-Mood Swings. Mood swings are one of the reasons that Scorpio men can be hard to figure out. One minute they are enjoying their time with you and the next minute they want to go be alone. They may be grumpy and then all of a sudden start joking about something. You will need to take the good with the bad. When the Scorpio man is in a good mood, have fun with him. When he is in a bad mood, let him have his space and don’t pester him or yell at him for being crabby. (He hates it when I get mad at him for being crabby.)

-Seeks Revenge. A Scorpio man is not known for being forgiving. If the Scorpio man feels that you have betrayed him or hurt him in any way, he will seek to hurt you. He may do this by tearing you down verbally (sometimes in front of other people), talk about you negatively behind your back, and possibly even perform some cruel jokes on you. The best thing to do is never to cross a Scorpio man in the first place. (An example of this can be seen in...an upcoming post. Maybe. I don't like to think/talk about it. It's in the past as they say.)

-Scorpio men don’t like being told what to do (one of his favorite lines is "Don't tell me what I can't DO!" as Locke would say in Lost), they don’t like to talk about personal things, and they don’t like to be around know-it-alls. A Scorpio male also hates being lied to, and doesn’t like making any compromises. If you have any of the qualities that a Scorpio man hates, don’t even start dating him. It will be a short lived relationship.

-a Scorpio man will be perfectly suited in a position that will greatly impact people or society. (C is a high school history teacher.) The Scorpio man will usually be very good with money, having the ability to make it and conserve it. He will often remain secretive of his money and power, if nothing else to ensure that no one tries to take advantage of him. (C prefers not to have a savings account because he doesn't trust banks. True story.)

-The Element associated with Scorpio is Water. As opposed to the 'roiling seas' seen in other Water Signs, a better motto for Scorpios would be 'still waters run deep.' Those born under this sign are as emotional as their waterborne brethren, it's just that they're not as likely to show it. The Scorpio's emotions are repressed, kept under cover. (Apparently he gets sensitive about his birthday...it took me about a week for him to explain why, and why he wasn't sending an email to his friends about his bday party.)

-Beware the Scorpio who feels crossed! These folks can turn vindictive in no time flat. Luckily, once Scorpios catch their breath, they will return to their usual determined and loyal (albeit strong-willed) ways. (This is true. When he gets mad, he get pissed. But eventually he does simmer down and apologize...eventually.)

-Scorpions don't miss much, since they are highly attuned to the vibrations of others. They are intuitive, probing and very focused on knowing who's who and what's what. Scorpios can lose their temper (and even become vengeful) when someone gets in their way, so it's best to give them plenty of room. (He has a man-cave. He has  his own room. 'Nuff said!)

-Scorpios work as hard as they do so they can someday sit back and feel satisfied with themselves. These folks are intense, passionate and filled with desire. (I don't know about this one yet, but it will be quite awhile until he/we can sit back! We do enjoy vacations to the fullest though!)


Lucky me!! Happy birthday C! Love u!

What's in a (Blog) Name? / Tunery Tuesday: Trynna Find a Way- Nelly Furtado

Yesterday I was on Twitter on my train ride to work, and saw a tweet from one of my favorite celebs. It read, "Thanks for all the sweet messages celebrating the 10th birthday of WHOA , NELLY!, my first cd. "Best of Nelly Furtado" is out in days...xo" .

Two things caught my eye. First of all....ummm you only have 4 albums, one of which barely sold any at all, and another that is all in Spanish...what do you mean "Best Of..."? Wouldn't that just be re-selling the Loose album? And second....it's been 10 YEARS!!?! Whoa, Nelly indeed!

You see, I had a slight obsession with Nelly Furtado. Don't get me wrong, I didn't go all crazy over "I'm Like a Bird," (in fact that song got on my nerves), but once "Turn Off The Light" came out, I wanted the album. By "Get Ur Freak On," with Missy Elliott, I was completely sold. She was the coolest thing since pop rocks. I liked her beats, her look, and especially her lyrics. And the fact that I could do a killer impression. In fact, she is the sole reason why I was able to, by senior year of high school, finally pop out of my shell.

I had been a big dork pretty reserved kid all the way up through high school. I was a Straight A honors student, captain of the tennis team, band fag (that's what we endearingly called ourselves) member of the marching band...the ultimate geek. But generally quiet/low key. In drama club, I never went out for any major parts, because I didn't think I was good enough- acting or singing. (And I had stage fright, but that's a story for another day.)

I would sing her songs non stop. I would even record myself on a small recorder I had for lectures (told ya I was a dork), an dlisten to it over her song on the radio. Other people mentioned that I sounded like her, but I didn't really pay attention until it was time for the 1st Annual Talent Show. To be in the talent show, you had to audition (to make sure you didn't completely suck, or try to pull a prank). The auditions were held in front of the Senior hea dof the drama club, Senior head of choir, and the Music Teacher, aka the band director. I found an instrumental version of "Turn Off the Light," and sang my heart out.

Well for at least half the song.

At that point the music director, who I had known all 3.5 years, turned it off. My heart started pounding. Blood rushed to my head and I really thought I was going to be sick. He hates it I kept repeating in my head. I made a complete and utter fool of myself. Why did I think... at which point he stopped just staring at me and spoke. "Holy cow, look who just shot out of their shell! Why didn't you do that for the last 3 years?!" I believe I smiled meekly and looked down. Needless to say, I was in.

And seriously, I rocked that show. I really can't tell you what exactly came over me. But not only did I sing my heart out (and I didn't forget the words, even with stage fright!)...I totally got into it. I sang to the audience, serenaded the host and did a little dance with her, and during the innstrumental break, I jumped off stage, and ran through the crowd high-fiving everyone! It was the best feeling ever!! And they loved it too!

It was such a success that I had no fear doing a rendition of "Get Ur Freak On" with my roomie (who dressed up as Missy) during my college's Summer Excel program Talent Show. Not gonna lie...they loved it too. They didn't think I could follow the rap. Haha!!

The title of my blog comes from this song, Trynna Find A Way, by Nelly Furtado.

• Trynna Finda Way by Nelly Furtado

"...I could try to chase life down, down the street and I'd find the separation
of fact and fiction

Chorus:
I'm tryin' a find a way
I'm tryin' a find a right
And if I budge I just might
I'm tryin' a find a way
I'm tryin' a find a right
And if I budge I just might

all this inspiration is passing me by
all I can do is chill when I really wanna fly
and this pollution do nothing but dirty up my mind
faster than forever in the blink of an eye
to see past my lethargy is hard I feign
the beauty of my youth is gone but the chemicals remain

*Chorus*
I travel to this land of surrender but I see it's all over me, over and over
again...and I try and I try and I try...an angel on my left side and a devil
on my right..and they fight and they fight and they fight..they're fighting,
they're fighting, they're fighting for my attention...hello? You have my
attention...Do I have your attention?...Can I have your attention
please?...please, you've made such such such an impression on me

Monday Minute & It's Our Anniversary!

If you would like to participate, please check out Cristy's blog here!

Questions:

(1) Have you ever been hospitalized?
Once. When I was in second or third grade, somehow I hit my head on the metal lock in the stall of the bathroom. I was a bloody mess! I had to get stitches in my head :(

(2) What’s the last bit of good news you received?
The date and location of C's birthday party...FINALLY!!! I may have been nagging him to set it up already- his bday is in 2 days!

(3) Who was your favorite teacher?
C :)
Unless you mean teacher that taught me...then it would be a tie with Miss Weber and Miss Mazzucca Mrs. Vigilante (she got married in between the 2 years I had her). Miss Weber was my music teacher from Grade 4-8. She was awesome- for some reason she took a liking to me, and I would go by her after school for long talks, and sometimes she would take me out for ice cream. She also helped me through a very tough time, when my friend told me she was being sexually harassed by her mother's live-in boyfriend, and he was sexually assaulting her younger brother. We still talk (though much less frequently)...we have been trying to get together for about a year now, but because I live so far away (and don't like to come up to North Jersey on the weekends), it's been a bit difficult.

Miss Mazzucca shares my name. And she was sooo upbeat and enthusiastic about teaching and psychology (which is what I had decided to get a degree in by this time). And I thought it was awesome that she was teaching while she was getting her Master's to be a guidance counselor (which is what she's doing now). And she was really pretty, and engaged (and later married) to a soap opera star!! (And there was a rumor that she was "seeing" the new hot Social Studies teacher...whether or not it was true, they made a very cute couple, and they were always flirting!)

(4) Do you sing in the shower?
Rarely. I'm more of a car singer.

(5) Describe the happiest day of your life.
I think thee day I started college might've been the happiest day. I would say graduating high school, but if I remember correctly I'm pretty sure I got into a fight with my mom right after graduation, and she made a scene in front of my friends (typical) and took my cell phone away.

So yes, first day of college.. or really first day I went to college, for a program called Summer Excel for multicultural students to get acclimated to college life. The independence was overwhelming....it was the absolute best feeling in.the.world!! I was so excited to start, and there were seemingly endless possibilities, blah blah. I remember arriving at night, a few days into the program because the program started before my school had graduation, and then I wanted to go to a few of my friends graduation parties haha. But I remember my new roommate and one of the counselors literally running to meet me outside and nearly suffocating me with hugs, which was so strange to me because I really only talked to my soon-to-be roomie on teh phone once before I arrived, and it was pretty short! The other people I met soon became my very close friends (at least throughout college) ....and then there was that really cute upperclassmen... ;)

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In other news....
Today is me and C's 2 Year Anniversary!

This year we (not in order):

- celebrated Christmas together...in our apartment, with our own tree!

- went to a wedding in Cabo san Lucas, Mexico

- started our 2nd year living together

- sawa George Clinton and P Funk concert

- went to Seaside Heights and ran into JWoww (literally!)

- went to Ocean City, Maryland for a long weekend with our friends

- celebrated St. Patty's Day in Seaside

- saw the Shakespearean Lebowski (hilARious!)

- went to the Philadelphia Zoo (my first time!)

- went to multiple baby/ bday parties

- saw 2 Cirque du Soleil shows: Ovo and Dralion

- listened to Ozomatli live in Philly

- went to several Phillies games

- went to a pro soccer game (C's first!)

- participated in the Revlon Walk for a Cure

- celebrated the LOST Finale

- went to see Savion Glover's "Sole Power" show in NYC

- had an awesome 4th of July

- went to the Nas/ Damian Marley concert in Williamsburg, BK

- had a game night with our friends in Staten Island

- went to Brewtopia: The Great World Beer Festival

and probably lots more that I'm missing! It has been an awesome year together and I can't wait for more!Happy Anniversary Boo! Love you!!! <3

(he's shy!)

Crumblef*ck?

I don't cook or bake. Like, ever. The last time I tried to make something in the kitchen it was a casserole thing. C was polite enough to take a few bites, but seriously, it was inedible.

The time I was in the kitchen before that, I was living on my own. It was a Saturday morning, and I was up early. I decided to take out my "cookbook" that I got as a graduation present aptly called "Help! My Apartment Has A Kitchen!" Lucky fo me, I had all the necessary ingredients for a breakfast burrito. I set to it, scrambling eggs, cutting up veggies, mixing in cheese, and toasting my burrito wrap. Very satisified with myself, I sat down in bed with my breakfast burrito, some OJ, and some trashy TV. Fast forward approximately two hours later....I was doubled over in the bathroom, sick as a dog.

As you can see, I'm not exactly Top Chef. But then my office decided to throw a fall "Dessert-Fest" to be held this Friday. Everyone is supposed to bring in a dessert- store bought or homemade,...we don't judge.

One of my favorite things about fall is pumpkin pie (second only to pumpkin spice lattes from Starbucks, which, I will never mess with). So today I decided to make a pumpkin pie. (actually, I decided this last year but never got around to it...just go with me here!)

And you know what? People liked it. True story. Like, at least 7 different people who tried it and know nothing of my lack of culinary skills said it was good. **pats self on back**

Of course, partaking in my first real culinary act in years, I took photos. See for yourself!

ingredients of greatness

my helper, workin the crust. note the intense concentration

ready for my whippin

all mixed up

peeking in the oven, making sure nothing has exploded or lit on fire...

beautifully golden pumpkin pie (with a slight mark because I did not leave room for "rising"...oops.

Pumpkin pie success! Maybe I'm not a complete wreck in the kitchen. Hooray!!!

TGIF!

This week seemed sooo long. Sheesh. I'm so happy it's almost over. And today is my coworker's bday, so we're having a mini-break at 3 for some delic strawberry shortcake! Yummm!!

 

Do YOU want to be linked in a future 5QF? Do you have any burning questions? C'mon over to my community and offer them up!!)

1. Who is the better cook, you or your spouse?
C, the boyf. We would starve to death (or eat out a whoooole lot) if it were up to me. One of the things I need to work on.

2. How often do you talk to your mom?
About once a week. And believe me, that is more than enough.

3. Are you adventurous in the kitchen or stick to the recipe?
It is an adventure if I step into my kitchen. And I don't cook. Sooo I suppose sticking to the recipe?

4. Is your second toe longer than your big toe?
Yes it is. There is an old wives' tale I heard once that says if the woman's second two is longer than the big toe, she will "wear the pants" in a romantic relationship. So far, it's been true :P

5. Do you dress up for Halloween? (Bonus question: What will you be this year?)
Usually yes, if there's a reason to, like a Halloween party or something. Last year I did not because we had nowhere to go :( This year I was going to be Snooki, but it was for an office party (so inappropo!), and I feel like everyone will be dressing up as a Jersey Shore character, so I changed my mind. Now it is between two costume ideas:
a cherry pie costume I bought two years ago when I was a "Dirty Martini". I bought this outfit because I found the "Dirty Martini" in a size up form mine, and in case it was too big (and the store didn't take returns), I found this one in my size. I got the "Dirty Martini" to fit though, so this one has been on reserves packed away:

I don't have the big jugs this model has, but it still works :)

Option 2 is Arlene from "True Blood." I think wearing a big red wig would be super fun, and it's still easy and comfortable.

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This weekend:

-Today, I plan on going home and doing nothing but cuddle on the couch. Yay.

-Tomorrow I have to make some returns at the mall, and at night C and I are going to see Cirque Du Soleil's Dralion for our 2 year anniversary (on Monday). So super excited! I LOVE these Cirque shows!

-Sunday I was hoping to go pumpkin picking...as I have been trying to do for the past three weeks now. But now I'm not so sure I want to spend the money on pumpkins that 1) will probably get smashed (last year neighborhood kids stole our pumpkins from right in front of our door and smashed thee. I was sad.) and 2) will only be "in season" for another week. But we shall see. Also, C's big toe is all messed up- he thinks he has gout- but either way it is all swollen and bruised looking and hurty, so walking around searching for pumpkins may not be a great idea for nursing him back to normal. Whether or not we get pumpkins, I plan on making pumpkin pie.

That's right.

I, Miss Un-Domestic- one time made myself sick just trying to make some scrambled eggs- should definitely not be anywhere near the kitchen, am going to attempt to bake a pumpkin pie. I am going to search the Internets for a recipe, go to the store, and bake. This attempt is because next Friday my office is having a "Dessert-Fest", and I would like to make pumpkin pie because it is one of my favorite foods in the whole wide world, and I need to do a trial before the real thing. If it doesn't work out (which is a great possibility), then I'll just buy it. But I *must* at least attempt.

Happy Weekend!

Wednesday Want It: Fallin for Autumn

Someone's been doing some online window shopping- I LOVE fall shopping! It's not just for Back-to-school anymore kids!

This "Perfect Leather Pump" for $100 at Ann Taylor Or....

In Stores Now. Visit hm.com to see more.

The H&M version for only $35! ( I like the detailing on this one better!)

In Stores Now. Visit hm.com to see more.

This necklace is too cute. I love the charms. And at $4, you can't go wrong!

Speaking of $4 jewelry, I need to make a stop at Charlotte Russe and soon. The majority of their jewelry is only $4, with the most expensive piece I saw at ony $7.50!! I'm not listing every piece that I loved here, because that could really be a post all by itself!

The Tarte TEN TEN Limited Edition Collector's Palette ($182 Value) from Sephora for only $44. Cute and fun design, and great colors. The perfect present for your girlfriend's fall birthday!

Tunery Tuesday: At The Beginning- Anastasia

Good morning!
So yesterday I was listening to the radio, and they asked "What was your high school graduation song?"

I don't know why or who chose it (I'm almost positive I did not vote for this, especially since I didn't even see the movie), but here it is!

"Life is a road and I wanna keep going
Love is a river I wanna keep flowing

In the end I wanna be standing

at the beginning with you."
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Also, I posted this song a few weeks ago, but the video just came out...so here it is:



I really like the song- it's super catchy. But I'm not so sure I like the video. Yeah, it's cool that her whipping hair colors everything, but I feel like she's trying to look a little too grown...and a little too "Rihanna."
Thoughts?

Monday Minute + Weekend Recap

Questions:

(1) Did you play any sports growing up?
I did.
Starting in...well..."Pee Wee" I guess you would call it, I played basketball, soccer, softball, tennis, and cheerleading (yes, I consider cheerleading a sport. If you don't, then you've probably never done it, at least not competitvely!). By high school the only sport I played was tennis.

(2) Have you ever gotten an MIP (apparently people don't know what this is. I guess it's the dorky law school part of me, sorry! Haha...it's a minor in possession)?
Umm...no. I didn't know what that was until the explanation!

(3) Do you snore or sleepwalk?
No, but I do like to hog the bed in the middle of the night!

(4) Describe your last dream.
All I remember is that my some of my coworkers were in it. Strange.

(5) What's the one thing you've been meaning to do that you just haven't gotten to?
GO TO AUSTRALIA!
...and learn Spanish.
...and learn how to budget properly!

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Now Time for My Weekend Recap!

Friday: Got home about normal time after having a somewhat shitty afternoon. I don't know exactly what made me so...blaaaah, but having no one to go to happy hour with after work didn't help. Also, I got a call from a Blast from the Past...seriously haven't talked to this girl in months. I didn't even hear her voicemail until Sunday afternoon. She was calling me to "catch up" and be her "date" to a college young alum event in the city.

Ummm...what? I haven't said 2 words to you (and even that was via text) since July. And I was in a bad mood? No. Just no.

In reality, I didn't even see the missed call until I got home. But still, I wouldn't have answered. I actually stopped being friends with her years ago, but never told her. Why didn't I tell her? It didn't seem neccessary. We barely talked anyway, and that was only when it was someone's birthday.

Why did I want to stop being friends? Because I don't like fake people, liars, or traitors. Basically, it stemmed from my ex. We broke up, and people took sides. Understandable. But I (nor he) said that you couldn't talk to the other. That would be preposterous. What I didn't like or respect was people who would come to my side, badmouth him and listing all the reasons why he was a jerk, blah  blah, and then go back and hang out with him. Especially when I wasn't even mad at him/fighting with him anymore! I just didn't understand- it's like, umm were you not over at my place last week sayig how horrible he was? And now you're at his party? What?

That is not to be confused with the people I totally  respect, who openly would hang out with both of us, not choosing to take sides just because our relationship had ended, and instead investing in friendships with us as individuals, and not a couple.

But back to random phone call- I will probably call her today because I will feel guilty for ignoring her. Damn guilt!

Saturday: Woke up early. C had work until 12, so I was up straightening up, doing laundry, etc. Then he came home, we rested a bit (I think?), and got ready for the soccer game! C's friend from work invited us for the game and tailgating. It was the last game of the season- Philly Union vs. NY/NJ Red Bulls.

We were speeding down the highway becuase we thought we were gonna be late, then wound up paying $20 to sit in a completely empty lot. Seriously. Ghost town.

Luckily his coworker's friends found us (I still don't know how)...apparently we were in the right lot, but on the RV/Buses/Limos side! Ooops! The rest of the tailgate went well...I don't think I've ever actually tailgating...or at least not with food...before.

Of course security came over and told us that grilling was not allowed (Ooops again!) but they were gonna let us continue since it was the last game of the season! Sweet! The game itself was good- Philly won! I was surprised that I had never told C that I had been to a pro- soccer game before (Chelsea vs. Manchester United I believe, Meadowlands Stadium, 2002ish). It was his first one. Oh, and I saw a vuvuzela for the first time!

Sunday: Sunday went downhill fast. Over one of the stupidest fights evaaaaar! In short, C got really pissed that his mom ruined the surprise present she was getting him. But he got mad at me, and took it out on me. During breakfast. Which was absurd. I was really like "Let me get this straight. You are mad that me and your mom were conspiring to buy you PRESENTS?! for your BRITHDAY???! Are you serious?"

Yeah. He was serious.

Eventually, however, he got over it. But it ruined our pumpkin picking day. Our apartment is *still* pumpkin-less! He then got invited to the Phillies Championship game. So I straightened up a bit, and then got caught up in....

"Sister Wives"

OMG. It was a marathon. And I couldn't shut it off. FOR FOUR HOURS! Not because it was so enlightening, but because it was so dumb. It was like Jersey Shore- like a trainwreck you can't help but stare at in complete and utter awe.

If you are unfamiliar with the show (like I was before yesterday at 6pm), it is a "reality" tv show that follows polygamist Kody Brown and his 3 (now 4 after yesterday's wedding) "Sister Wives," and their 13 children and 3 step-children. They all live in one house (that was designed by a fellow polygamist), but 4 separate living quarters. The children were all raised as siblings with 3 moms. They were all home-schooled, but now go to a polygamist type of school with other "polygs." 2 of the 4 moms do not work. Kody is in ad sales, yet somehow can afford to drive around a new Lexxus.

During the whole show I was trying to understand how this lifestyle made any sense to any of the women involved. And then I was trying to make sense of how completely hypocritical all of them were. My favorite part was when Kody and Wife #1 Meri went to Mexico for their 20th Wedding Anniversary. She wanted to know how this lifestyle made sense to him, and what would he think if she had another lover, or husband. You could see the sheer shock and disgust on his face. Kody says “it is not something I am comfortable imagining. The vulgarity of you with another man sickens me.  It is against man and nature.” 

That's interesting. And yet he says "love should be multiplied, not divided"...apparently that only works when the man is multiplying. Soooo sexist.

And then ...and this part REALLY boggled my mind...Meri has only been able to have one child. So as an anniversary present, Kody offerred her invitro.

WHAT!!!!

Oh yeah. And then he was in shock when she turned it down, saying that if the pregnancy didn't come naturally, she didn't want it. I'm a little surprised he didn't divorce her right then and there, because he did say he wanted more kids. Which also does not make any sense to me. I mean, how does one even afford feeding and clothing 16 (and 3 step-) children?? And then the time- between work and taking rounds with his 4 wives every night, when is there any time between "Dad" and the kids??? Yes, they have 3 (or 4) moms, but I don't see where there would be time for him to bond with his children, nor when he ever even tried to bond with them other than a kiss or hug here and there when he happened to trip over one of them.

Meri seems to be the only one with an ounce of sense though. I think she finally realized that she no longer wanted this lifestyle-especially with her jealous and "sharing" issues- but didn't want to practically pluck her child out of the family unit. The kid is also pretty smart- she decided that this lifestyle isn't for her and once graduating high school wants to be a doctor in the Navy. As in...wants to be a professional and not just a babymaker.

Christina, Wife #3, always wanted to be a third wife. When single men, even in her faith, would ask for her, she would turn them down and only date married men. She said she wanted the family, and the sister wives, not the man.  ...Hmmm then why get married? I mean, isn't marriage in part because you love another person? You are not marrying your sister-wives, you are marrying a man.

 

Or not.

 

Apparently Kody announced in on Good Morning America recently that he is only legally married to one woman. The others are "faith marriages" only recognized by their religion.

 

Interesting. Kinda makes the whole show seem like a hoax...or for money...or for Kody Brown to look even more like a careless man-whore.

Sunday Stealing: Another 50 Question Meme, Part 2 Indeed!

26. Do you like someone?
Yup!

27. The last song you listened to?
Mala Gente- Juanes

28. What time of day were you born?
6-ish pm
29. What’s your favorite number?
12

30. Where did you live in 1987?
North New Jersey

31. Are you jealous of anyone?
Yeah, sometimes.

32. Is anyone jealous of you?
Yeah, sometimes!

33. Where were you when 9/11 happened?
Psychology class in high school.

34. What do you do when vending machines steal your money?
Kick them, after trying to get my hand in to grab whatever I can.

35. Do you consider yourself kind?
Yes, usually.

36. If you had to get a tattoo, where would it be?
I'm not sure anymore. It would have been a heart with wings and a crown for me and my two bff's, but we're not that close anymore.

37. If you could be fluent in any other language, what would it be?
Spanish

38. Would you move for the person you loved?
Depends how far. I moved to central NJ for someone I love!

39. Are you touchy feely?
Sort of. I'm a cuddler, btu I don't like random people touching me
40. What’s your life motto?
Do it!

41. Name three things that you have on you at all times?
the ring my mom gave me, cell phone, a hair tie

42. What’s your favourite town/city?
Oooh...I really love Maui, HI and Canterbury England

43. What was the last thing you paid for with cash?
Beer

44. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it?
I really don't remember

45. Can you change the oil on a car?
No, but I'd like to learn.

46. Your first love: what is the last thing you heard about him/her?
That he bought an apartment in BK

47. How far back do you know about your ancestry?
Only as far as my grandparents

48. The last time you dressed fancy, what did you wear and why did you dress fancy?
I wore a peachy colored dress to a wedding reception in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.

49. Does anything hurt on your body right now?
Yes, actually. My upper back and my left butt muscle.

50. Have you been burned by love?
Yes.

I LOOOOVE me some FRIIIIDAYSS!!

Haha! For anyone in the tri-state (Northeast- NY, NJ, PA) area, that is what John Bell says on Z100's (100.3FM) Z Morning Zoo radio show.

UPDATE: I was looking for a sound clip of John Bell's saying, and just found out that he was FIRED from z100 earlier this year (like, before summer....oops). UGH! He was awesome! This is such sad news. And they added Carolina Bermudez...she SUCKS! She thinks she's soo funny, yet she sounds like some idiot from the ghetto. Here's an interview with John Bell that was done as a response on a different radio show.

Anyway, on to 5 on Fridays!

1. What is your favorite Halloween candy?
Crunch bars. Followed closely by the mini Snickers and Reese's. Which is odd because I don't like the full size version of either one of those!

2. Do you fold your socks?
Fold? No. I put them together and fold the top of one over the top of the other one so they stay together. I don't engulf one in the other- that would just be a sock ball...which is weird in my opinion.

3. What is something that you wish you had been warned about?
I can't really say "wish" I had been warned because I was warned, but definitely going straight to grad school. That would have been much smarter. It really is so much harder once you go into the workforce to go back to school- not impossible, but harder. Plus, much harder to get financial aid and get back into that mindset!

4. What is the most significant difference between you and your significant other?
He is laid back, grounded, realistic, and more of a homebody- not that he doesn't like to go out, but he has no problem staying in more than going out. He is also a planner.

I am spontaneous, idealistic/romantic, a little crazy, and would usually prefer to be out and about, doing just about anything. I feel like I'm missing out on stuff/life if I stay home too much.
I get him out more, he keeps me grounded. Works out pretty well!

5. What are three words you would use to describe yourself? (And, just for fun...if your significant other is around, ask him/her what 3 words they would use to describe you!!)
My answers:
Outgoing/social, Resourceful, Spontaneous (at least I used to be...it's harder to be spontaneous when you liveout in the sticks and you ahve to worry about public transportation to get home!)...hmm Cheerful.

C's answers:
Fun, Spunky, Sexy
(wowza! Thanks boo!)

Weekend Plans!

 

This weekend will probably be pretty chill, as C is sick.

 

Tonight we were supposed to go to our friend's birthday party in South Jersey, but we're not. Probably will have a quiet night at home. Hopefully we will get to the grocery store, because our refrigerator and cupboards are bare! Last night C had cereal and cinnamon buns for dinner....no good. I didn't even eat dinner because I fell asleep at 8. *le sigh*

 

Tomorrow C is supposed to work half-day. I don't think he's going. I have to clean and do some errands. Then in the evening we are going to the Philly Union soccer game! Whooo! I haven't been to a soccer game since about freshman year in college. I'm excited.

 

Sunday if C is feeling ok I think we are going punkin picking!

 

Last week I went with Momma to go punkin picking up in Queens, NY. But once we got there we realized that you couldn't pick the pumpkins off the vines...they were all pre-picked and put in a field. Lame. We did go through a corn maze though. That was fun, as it was my mom's first time! You go through without a map, and pick up pieces to  put the map together as you go- very fun! Then we were going to buy pumpkin pie, but they were sold out :( So hopefully I'll get some this week.

I *love* pumpkin pie!!

 

Happy weekend!

Tidbits on Thursday

Some random things:

• Even being from New Jersey, last night's South Park episode was hysterical. I think the best/worst part was The Snooki. She is definitely my favorite character, but they did a great job mocking her. And she was even a good sport about it! After the show she tweeted, "snooki want smoosh smoosh. im going to have nightmares tonight lmao!!! we've officially made it. goodnite my bitches."
  
  Here's a clip in case you missed it:

It's a Jersey Thing
Tags: SOUTH
PARKRandy Marsh,Eric Cartman,more...

• *SPOILER ALERT!* JWoww was one person who was not torn apart on the episode. Instead, she took her fighting to the ring. And apparently won...against a Snooki look alike. Catch it tonight at 9 (est) on Spike TV's "TNA".

Wearing Ed Hardy and all. Is that Pauly D next to her?!

• What could be scarier than JWoww and Snooki dressing up at each other this Halloween? The millions of others dressed like them- apparently "The Snooki" costume is #1 best seller this year! I have to admit, I was going to be Snooki too, well, maybe a little more covered up- it's cheap and easy- but unfortunately our work Halloween bowling party was cancelled because people here are no fun  :(  and I don't know of any other Halloween parties. Boo.
• I love ordering stuff online and I *love* getting mail. It's like getting presents. I also love all the deals I've been finding. This week alone I saved over $100.

I got scarves that were supposed to be $17/ea for $5/ea, a set of 3 belts that were $5 instead of $15, a skirt for $20 in stead of $30, pants (the denim trousers!) that were $30 instead of $40, 75 free prints from Shutterfly (which is awesome because I take lots of digital pics and never print them because photo paper and ink/toner are expensive...and I'm lazy), $125 hand-stamped necklaces for only $60, 3 free photo calendars (goodbye Christmas shopping for parents!) and ...I dunno a whole lot of other stuff! YAY!

• I really like that some of the comics were pink and/or had the breast cancer awareness ribbon in them. Yes- the funnies from last week. I realize it's Thursday. Don't judge me.

Kitchen Nazi

I Have been called many names, but never a "Kitchen Nazi." I do not consider myself a "Kitchen Nazi." However I was definitely called one today.
See, I'm an Office Manager. That means, very simply, I run shit (at least concerning office policies, temperature, and supplies).

I also sit closest to our (tiny) kitchenette. Which consists of a medium size refrigerator, a coffee machine (that makes cappuccino- yumm), a small sink, a small storage unit to hold the coffees and coffee supplies, and a microwave.

Now, in every office I've worked in, and I have worked in quite a few offices in my short time in the workforce, I have never had a problem with kitchenette etiquette. I suppose it was assumed that people would:

1. clean up after themselves,
2. not store food in the kitchen for months on end,
3. not steal other people's food (which I really don't understand because there is a campus store, coffee shop, and FULL cafeteria right downstairs)
4. if you empty it, you refill it
5. and NOT cook SEAFOOD!

I don't think that's too much to ask. But apparently, here, it must be in writing. And hung on huge signs. And even so, people cannot follow these very simple rules. And then I'm called a frikken Kitchen Nazi. Frankly, I think all of these things are just common sense, and common courtesy.

I have never been anywhere where cooking seafood was ever done in the office, because it is crazy. It's smelly, and that smell reeks in the office for hours on end. We are up on the 11th floor. There are no windows that open up here.

 I have taken to running through the office spraying Neutra-Air. It helps.
            But not as much as if some people didn't cook fish in the office.

I mean, like I stated, there is a FULL cafeteria downstairs. With microwaves, toasters, toaster ovens- where people can warm their food if they don't want to buy it. Why can't they just use that?

If I find out who it is (and I will goshdarnit) they are seriously going to get a piece of my mind!!

Oh, and then the person who called me a Kitchen Nazi asked whyyy all the signs. I'm like, "well, because we ahd one up before, and people weren't following it, so we added another. I don't think it's so hard to follow a simple rule of not cooking seafood which stinks up the entire office, especially when we have important people that come up to our floor on a regular basis (the CFO, who works on this floor, and the President of the University, for example) and the stench smacks them in the face as soon as they get off the elevator.

And it's gross." But I didn't mention that last part.

And you know what she said to me? "Oh, so no seafood or fish? And I guess no spicy foods, no ethnic foods, no this or that...so what can we use the microwave for? If you don't want people to use teh microwave, you should just take out the entire kitchenette."

Biatch- if I had that power, I would also have the power to get rid of you and your nasty attitude. And I surely would.

SO many damn whiners in this office!

Tunery Tuesday: The Lazy Song- Bruno Mars

"Omg this is great!"
Anyone who can use "snuggie" in a song and make sense has my vote. I really like Bruno Mars (minus the whole cokehead thing). Love his voice, lyrics make sense, and very catchy beats. Have a listen:

"I'll be lying on the couch just chillin in my snuggie

Click to MTV so they can teach me how to dougie

Cus in my castle I'm the freakin man

Oh Oh

Yes I said it

I said it

I said it cus I can

Today I don't feel like doing anything

I just wanna lay in my bed

Don't feel like picking up my phone

So leave a message at the tone

Cus today I swear I'm not doing anything
Nothing at all..."

Monday Minute...resurrected with Cristy!

Questions...

(1) What color undies/ boxers do you have on right now?
Black boyshorts with lace on the sides.

(2) What song have you been playing on repeat lately?
Grenade- Bruno Mars. I love the name of it (mainly because of Jersey Shore...I know, I know. Redic!) and I think he has a nice voice and good beats.

(3) What's your best personality trait?
Hmm...toss up between good secret keeper and being a goofball. I'm a great secret keeper because I usually forget the secrets people tell me! And I'm always a goofball!

(4) Are you a leader or a follower?
Depends on the situation. At work, I'm more of a follower. In my personal life, I'm more of a leader, always finding fun, interesting things to do and planning them!

(5) What's your least favorite household chore?
Vacuuming. It used to be dishes, but now we have a dishwasher. I cannot get motivated to vacuum though! Then again, I also don't like cleaning the bathroom...but at least that goes quickly. I don't like having to move furniture around or picking up misc. items off the floor to vacuum!

The linky is now closed, but feel free to join Cristy next week at Happily A Law Mama!

Sunday Stealing: Another 50 Question Meme, Part One (perhaps)

Cheers to all of us thieves!

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
What to do with this hair...

2. How much cash do you have on you?
None, as I am sitting on my couch in sweats. But I have about $100 in my purse.

3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR?
floor

4. Favorite planet?
Pluto. Oh wait...not a planet anymore? Hmm...Saturn. Can't beat those rings.

5. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone?
Mom? Not sure, and too lazy to get up and check.

6. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone?
I only have one ringtone, and that's Train- Soul Sister. Unless you mena the ones that come with the phone, but those all suck. My phone is on vibrate 3/4 of the time though.

7. What shirt are you wearing?
Juanes t-shirt, and gray (not grey) hoodie over it.

8. Do you label yourself?
Nope.

9. Name the brand of the shoes you’re currently wearing?
Not wearing any. Got some Hanes socks on though.

10. Bright or Dark Room?
I've never been in a dark room in the photography sense, so I'll just go with bright.

11. Did you do anything to celebrate John Lennon's 70th yesterday?
Didn't even know it was his birthday. So, no.

12. What does your watch look like?
Brown leather, with a round face. It's Lucky (the brand, not like, holding mystical powers).

13. What were you doing at midnight last night?
Going to bed.

14. What did your last text message you received on your cell say?
"I just pulled into the station" (that's what he said...badoom ching!)

15. Where is your nearest 7-11?
About 10 minutes away.

16. What’s a word that you say a lot?
Like. I know, I'm ashamed of myself.

17. Who told you he/she loved you last?
Momma

18. Last furry thing you touched?
C :)

19. How many drugs have you done in the last three days?
0...just say no.

20. How many rolls of film do you need developed?
I think only one. Though I don't remember where it is.

21. Favorite age you have been so far?
This one is working out pretty good.

22. Your worst enemy?
It's a she. Names unnecessary.

23. What is your current desktop picture (extra points if you post it.)?
Ahem...

C and I in Maui, HI July 2009

C likes to hide his identity.

C was already wearing sunglasses in this pic, but he still wanted it "pixelated."

I don't know how to "pixelate", but I figured the black bar would do.

:)

24. What was the last thing you said to someone?
"OMG you weirdo!"

25. If you had to choose between a million bucks or to be able to fly what would it be?
I bet if I was the only person to be able to fly, I would make at least a million bucks. So flying.

It's Friday!

1. What do you listen to while driving?
I don't drive, I commute on train. I listen to either my "Mornings" playlist or radio (either Z100 or 98.3...though sometimes Nick Cannon's morning show is annoying, they play more music) on my iPod.


2. What is your least favorite thing about Fall?
It's closer to winter. And it's colder...I don't like being cold.


3. What does your dream house look like, inside and out?
Daydream at work?! Well I never!!

Ha, just kiddin'. Let's see...at least 2 floors. I've only lived in ranch style houses and I always wanted stairs! At least 2 1/2 bathrooms, one in the master suite with a hot tub, shower stall with either numerous jets or one of those big cool rain-like showerheads, double sinks, and heated floors. I would LOVE heated floors! The master bedroom also must have at least one, but possibly 2 walk in closets...this is because right now we have a walk-in, and C's crap clothes take up literally one whole side and half of my side! Also, a larger bed. I feel like California king may be too big, so maybe just king.

I don't have kids (yet), so right now I'll dream small(er) and say 2 bedrooms and a den/office (aka "man cave") for C. Bigger kitchen than what we have (we're in a small 2 bedroom apartment). I don't cook, like at all, but maybe I would be up for the challenge if the challenge didn't include fitting 2 people in the same kitchen. Dark wood cabinets, walk in pantry, island in the middle, and a big double door stainless steel fridge...with an ice maker and a snack shelf.

Medium size dining and living room. I actually love the furniture we have now so no changes to that. New dark wood dining room table and chairs though. Maybe one that's expandable.

The biggest inclusion in my dream home would be a pool. a decent size (not too big), in-ground pool,...and maybe a jacuzzi. Not completely necessary but...hey, it's my dream home!

Outside I would like white (ish) with blue shutters. And little lights on the walkway to the door. And a large backyard...big enough to put in play stuffs for the possible kiddies. And the pool. With room for the dog (that I will obviously have) to run around. And lots of windows. I love natural light.

I think that about sums it up! I haven't decided on location yet. I would like it to be warmer, but not sure I'm ready to leave the Northeast!

4. Would you ever own a minivan?
If I had kids, yes. I wouldn't mind being a typical soccer momma!


5. Do you wash new clothes before wearing them?
Bathing suits and underwear, definitely. Sometimes I wash the other stuff. But sometimes I don't because I feel like it loses it's "newness."

For Fun Fridays, I’m going to share our weekend plans!

Tonight, I am going out with my girlfriend for happy hour in Hoboken. We're going to have a few drinks and catch up! I'm excited because I haven't seen her since I think late August! We're going to this new place called the Wicked Wolf- love the name! And supposedly they have good food too! C is going to the Phillies game with his friend- they don't have tickets, but if all else fails they'll tailgate and then head to a bar.

Tomorrow, I think we are going to go pumpkin picking with my momma. If not, then I might just head to NYC to visit and go to a street fair or something. I'm still discussing with C.

On Sunday, I think we're going (out?) to dinner with C's family for his momma's birthday, which was yesterday. I just remembered that I forgot to call-- oops! Again, not set in stone. Not sure if we're going out with his family on Saturday or Sunday. Once that's decided it'll be easier to plan the rest.

Happy Friday!

Fall Meme

Good morning! Today is a gorgeous fall day- the sun is shining, and the wind is blowing throw the colorful leaves...aaaah! Much better than the gloomy days of cold rain we've been having.

This meme was stolen from Kwizgiver, who stole it from Mrs. Chili, who stole it from Wayfarer. (Hmm...sounds like Sunday Stealing!). Onward!

Have you turned the heat on in your house yet this fall?
Not yet! We actually still have the AC on. I like to sleep when it's cooler.

Do you allow your pets on the furniture?
If I had a pet, it would be a dog, and yes, it would be allowed on the furniture. How else would you be able to snuggle with him/her?!

What were your final words for September?
Where did you goooo??

What are your first words for October?
Please don't rain all month.

Do you think you’ve ever seen a ghost?
I don't think so.

What is the one color that represents this time of year?
Burnt orange

Which of your senses do you think is most sensitive this time of year?
My sense of being warm! I get cold easily...and I hate being cold.

What is your favorite thing to do at the county fair?
I don't think I've been to a county fair. Are there hayrides or corn mazes? If so, I like those.

What do you like when you have a cold?
Lie on the couch under blankets with hot tea and the remote control. I don't terribly mind being sick. Also, C taking care of me. So sweet.

Are you willing to spend over $100 for a piece of winter clothing, like boots or a coat?
Definitely for a nice, warm coat. Boots I feel like I could get for cheaper.

What do you have too much of in your kitchen?
shopping bags ...agreed!

What gripes do you have about this time of year?
That it's colder :(

Other than yourself, are you responsible for getting anyone ready in the morning?
Thank goodness no. I can barely get myself ready!

When was the last time you cleaned your gutters?
no gutters - apartment complex

So, it’s after Labor Day. Will you still be wearing white?
Shirts yes, pants/shoes/purses/other no. There are very few fashion rules I follow, but I agree with this one.

What shows are you most looking forward to this Fall?
Well I was looking forward to Hell's Kitchen, but for some reason now each episode is 2 hours! That's like a whole night dedicated to one show! Hmph. Definitely loving Law & Order: SVU. One Tree Hill...I can take it or leave it. I don't understand how you can continue a show that was based around 2 main characters who are now no longer in it. Meh.

What three things have you just not gotten around to from the summer, but probably should do before snow flies?
A proper, deep cleaning. And de-cluttering. And probably putting away the summer clothes, luggage, and snorkeling gear!

Tunery Tuesday: Shakira ft. Dizzee Rascal "Loca"

So I'm back from vacation! More on all that very soon, promise. But right now, I've got a new song with a Spanish vibe from my girl Shakira ft Dizzee Rascal. So catchy and fun, enjoy!

"I'm crazy but you like it!"