June Goals

So I said that I would just redo my April Goals in May. Which I didn't. In fact, May went by so dang fast that I completely forgot about um... all of them. Oops. But this month I'm taking a lot of time off from work, and I plan to recharge and refocus. 

- save $300

- get a microwave, new air filters for air conditioners, and HDMI cables

- finish [at least] one book

- watch 3 new to me movies
-redo and follow a dang budget!
- create something artsy

- go to a [outdoor] concert
- eye exam and new contacts

- get car insurance

- hang artwork

- donate/sell clothes that don't fit

- blog more

- cook 5 new dishes
- get outdoors and reconnect with friends

Normally I wouldn't try to complete so many goals, however I think with the time off (and actually paying attention to them) I'll be able to complete them. Wish me luck!

What are your goals for June? 

Confession: I Have a Sharp Tongue

I know this. My close friends know this. I am also brutally honest. Which is why when they ask for my opinion, they know they're going to get what I'm actually thinking, and not some sugar coated load of crap. But I also remind them of this before I give my opinion, just in case they forgot.

Recently, one of my closest friends confessed to me that she is currently cheating... on her husband. I asked why the hell she was telling me, as I was clearly going to be on his side, due to my last relationship. She said that she wanted to know my opinion. 

I am not good at holding my tongue. Or being tactful. But I tried.

I told her that I thought it was wrong, no I did not understand why she was doing it, but it was her life and she would have to deal with the consequences if he found out. Which he probably would, so be careful. Oh and ya know- STOP DOING IT.

And then she was surprised and pissed when she realized that he went through her phone. "Why would he do that? I was being 'good' lately." Really? Maybe you weren't being as 'good' as you thought. Obviously he was suspicious, otherwise he would have no reason to snoop.

I Just. Can't. Deal with her self-induced drama anymore. Like seriously. Yesterday she texted saying how she was listening to "Sleeping With A Friend" and having thoughts about the other guy. Being "good" was "killing her." "Being correct all day and night is exhausting." 

I couldn't hold my tongue fingers. 

"It 'kills you' to be faithful to your husband?" 

"No no no, it's not like that. You know what I mean."

Actually no, I have no clue what you mean. Maybe I 'don't get it' because I'm not married, I'm not sure. I understand thinking other people are attractive, but I'm pretty certain saying those vows means you're not going to act on those feelings. So I let it go and changed the subject, because obviously I wasn't getting through to her and I knew that whatever came out of my mouth fingers would probably continue to come out harsh. Hey, at least I stopped before I said anything else right?

What are you confessing today? Share it with Kathy!

Confessions

I confess:

I was supposed to be off this entire week, but due to a project at work, I'm here. I'm not bitter about it or anything -___-

I left work a little early yesterday because I felt like death. Thanks for that, panty ruiner. And then I sat on my ass watching Hangover 3 until like 8 when I decided pasta and cheesy goodness was in order.

I wore white pants on Memorial Day. The same day as the red tide arrived. And then I was freaking out the entire rest of the day and going to the bathroom like 80 times to check for any destruction. (There wasn't any, thank goodness.)

I usually write confessions as I think of them in a notebook. I accidentally left said notebook out on my dining room table when RJ came over. Two of the confessions were about him:

1. "I'm really upset that I got invited and then uninvited to a MDW BBQ because it was supposed to be a 'guys night' and the person invited girls before he remembered that."
2. "Sometimes I hide products from RJ [because he uses them all up]." (Seriously. I bought a brand new Listerine and he used the entire thing before I even knew he had opened it, and he didn't even ask! I know it's a little thing, but it's one of a few things, and like,... could you at least ask first?!)

He woke me up at 6:30AM Saturday morning to tell me that I left it out. Cue freakout because I didn't remember exactly what I had written. But whatever because then I got to go to the BBQ (and there were other gfs there, so I'm guessing they had something to say about suddenly being uninvited as well).

The products are still hidden. 

If it weren't for this linkup, I 1. wouldn't know what day is was and 2. would probably not be posting this week. 

What are you confessing this week?

Confessions: On Gifts and Other Things

+ I've regifted. I know some people think this is "wrong," but if I don't like something, and I know someone who would, I will give it to someone who will really appreciate it.

+ I've exchanged gifts. I mean, isn't that why you include the gift receipt?

+ I've given handmade gifts. And my friends loved them.

+ I've bought "gifts for no one." My ex used to complain about this all.the.time. But if I see a really good deal on something in July, and I know one of my friends would love it, I'll buy it then and save it for Christmas/birthday.

+ I saw that some other blogger started a Confessions on Wednesday linkup and it kinda pissed me off, and I'm not really sure why. YOU AREN'T Vodka and Soda- STEP OFF!

+I don't do mornings. Really. My coworker knows not to speak to me until after 10am. She also wants to buy me this mug:

+ I've become a planner. This is so unlike my former/younger self. But I like knowing where I'm going and what I'm doing ahead of time now (for the most part).

+ I'm kind of embarrassed that I'm 30 years old and still have issues sticking to a budget, like every month.

+ I went out last night. At 9pm. Though I was only supposed to stay for an hour and a half, I was having fun so I stayed later. I'm now thinking maybe that wasn't such a great idea. Stupid work getting in the way of my fun-having!

+ I feel like maybe I haven't been true to myself lately. And I don't really like it. I love traveling. I love dancing. I love just going to fun events. I gotta step up my game and start going solo if I can't find people to go with me- I'm tired of missing out!

What are you confessing today? Share it with Kathy!

Shit Men Say

Ever since we've been together, RJ likes to ask "Would You Be With Me If...?" I always thought this was so weird, especially since usually he'll ask one out of nowhere. Here are the top 10 I remembered to actually write down: 

Would You Be With Me If I...

said brah all the time

slept hanging upside down

painted my nails rainbow colors and ate skittles all the time 

ordered the same thing as u all the time 

was shorter than you

had a hump like Quasimodo

…All I ate was pasta. With no sauce. And didn’t work out. And if we went somewhere where they didn’t serve pasta, I would just stare at you eat.

(Well damn. I just realized I didn't write down 10. So here are some other randoms)

People dressed as the Easter Bunny give me the creeps. I guess its the blank non-blinking gaze with the mouth hanging open...just staring at you.

Say no to racism. Be like a panda. Pandas are black, white, asian....not mexican though. In that case, be like a panda wearing a sombrero. 

And that time he made himself into a corny meme:

Confessions: The Wishlist/I Suck at Saving Edition

After Steph's Wallet Watch, I swore I would get better at tracking and saving money. And I have. But that month made me realize something: I hate saving money.

It's not that I'm a crazy spender. It's just that I have a lot of bills to pay. And a "Treat Yo'Self" mentality:

Bottle of wine? Yes please. 

Dinner with friends? When? 

Happy Hour? Well.. it's been a rough week...

Groupon for Paint Night? I've always wanted to go!

Karaoke? I haven't gone in years, and can never find anyone to go with me- yes!

See? No bueno.
I can always find an excuse to spend money. Usually I'm spending on experiences instead of material things, and somehow that makes me feel a little better. But now that the watch is over, here are a few things I've been craving:

Goodbye Wallet Watch by lildesiqua featuring a nonstick cookware

new sunglasses: specifically amber ones since RJ accidentally broke mine- and because he's buying me new ones

new eyeglasses: I got insurance money, I'm on my last pair of contacts, and before the Watch, I bought a Living Social deal for an eye exam + glasses.

haircut: I actually have a coupon for a *free* haircut, and I was just waiting until it wasn't as cold out to chop off my locks. Looks like Spring has finally sprung so time for this hair to go!

shoes: I am in serious need of new flats, specifically black and nude. Booties aren't necessary, but I still want them

frying pan: NEED. My only one is small and crappy. Like, really crappy. Everything sticks to it, no matter how much Pam or butter I use. I want this Orgreenic frying pan I've been seeing on TV. I have a BBB gift card that I received for Christmas, so it's time to use it!

HDMI cables: I have Amazon Prime and Netflix, and am considering taking the plunge and cutting cable. This would be a big help in allowing me to still enjoy some TV and movies. I also got some Amazon gift cards via Swagbucks, so it would basically be free!

perfume: I ran out of my favorite one back in September.

jewelry: Um, I just like jewelry, though I hardly own any. And F21 has some cheapies that I love.

Salem, MA: heading here in June! Ok, so I guess I should save...

How do you save?

What are you confessing today?

Link up with Vodka and Soda and My So Called Chaos!!

Who Said Mets and Phillies Fans Can't Get Along?

This was one of those weekends that I didn't want to end. 

I took off Friday for no other reason than I could. And honestly, I didn't do a damn thing. I slept in, did a little online shopping, browsed the Internets, and enjoyed some time outdoors because the weather was gorgeous allll weekend. RJ was able to get on an earlier train here, so we went out for a little bit, but then got some Chinese food, and just laid low. 

Saturday he was supposed to volunteer, and I was supposed to go to a friend's birthday brunch. However, he woke up at 6 and decided he'd just go next weekend, and as I was heading out the door to brunch, I realized I didn't have my ID or debit card. I had taken them out of my wallet on Thursday, and threw them in my work bag. I realized this two hours AFTER brunch had started. Ooops. 

I wasn't too upset about it though, because it just meant I had more money to spend at the baseball game we were going to that night. RJ made breakfast, and then we pregamed, because ya know, dranks be expensive at stadiums. 

[Sidenote: Baseball is RJ's FAVORITE sport. He watches/listens to/keeps up with every Mets game- he even has the MLB app that updates with everyone's scores. And their biggest rival is the Phillies. I'm pretty sure I heard his heart break a little when I told him I was a Phillies fan!] 

We have both been looking forward to this game since February, when he bought the tickets for us for Valentine's Day. And it was extra special since it is both of our favorite teams, and it fell 2 days short of us being together for 6 months (yes I keep track- hush!). Also, the tickets were 5 rows behind 1st base... 5 ROWS! I have never been that close. It was also my first time at Citi Field, and our first game together- and it was awesome! 

5th row baby!

Unfortunately we couldn't stay til the end because of stupid public transportation, but we were able to watch the end of the game at a local bar- and the Phillies won! Oh, RJ was also able to talk me into buying a Phillies baseball cap at the game- I was surprised they even sold them since we were in Mets territory, but they did and it wasn't terribly overpriced, so I got it- my first one! 

Not sure why mine looks so much bigger? Probably because it's not worn in yet

Proof that Mets/Phillies fans CAN get along!

We ended the night just sitting on my patio and talking in the rain mist until super late. It was a perfect ending to the night. 

Sunday was another low key day. We slept in literally half the day, and spent much of the day in recovery. My mom's phone hasn't worked since Easter, and his mom had work, so we're both postponing Mother's Day celebrations.

How was your weekend?