Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Confession: I Have a Sharp Tongue

I know this. My close friends know this. I am also brutally honest. Which is why when they ask for my opinion, they know they're going to get what I'm actually thinking, and not some sugar coated load of crap. But I also remind them of this before I give my opinion, just in case they forgot.

Recently, one of my closest friends confessed to me that she is currently cheating... on her husband. I asked why the hell she was telling me, as I was clearly going to be on his side, due to my last relationship. She said that she wanted to know my opinion. 


I am not good at holding my tongue. Or being tactful. But I tried.
I told her that I thought it was wrong, no I did not understand why she was doing it, but it was her life and she would have to deal with the consequences if he found out. Which he probably would, so be careful. Oh and ya know- STOP DOING IT.

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And then she was surprised and pissed when she realized that he went through her phone. "Why would he do that? I was being 'good' lately." Really? Maybe you weren't being as 'good' as you thought. Obviously he was suspicious, otherwise he would have no reason to snoop.

I Just. Can't. Deal with her self-induced drama anymore. Like seriously. Yesterday she texted saying how she was listening to "Sleeping With A Friend" and having thoughts about the other guy. Being "good" was "killing her." "Being correct all day and night is exhausting." 

#Castiel #Are you kidding me?

I couldn't hold my tongue fingers. 

"It 'kills you' to be faithful to your husband?" 

"No no no, it's not like that. You know what I mean."

Actually no, I have no clue what you mean. Maybe I 'don't get it' because I'm not married, I'm not sure. I understand thinking other people are attractive, but I'm pretty certain saying those vows means you're not going to act on those feelings. So I let it go and changed the subject, because obviously I wasn't getting through to her and I knew that whatever came out of my mouth fingers would probably continue to come out harsh. Hey, at least I stopped before I said anything else right?


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13 comments:

  1. Kathy@MoreCoffeeLessTalkyJune 4, 2014 at 11:39 AM

    that's wack. no other way to put it. if she feels the need to "be good" as in faithful to her husband, uh perhaps she's in the wrong relationship?

    thanks for linking up!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  2. jessicaJune 4, 2014 at 12:13 PM

    This is crazy.....because i have a friend, that was telling me she was "thinking" about cheating on her husband..and wanted my opinion on this. I've never been married, but i know if i was i wouldn't ever be thinking about cheating. but i wanted her to make this decision herself. she's the one that's married, not me. so i just told her to think about what she would feel like if her spouse cheated on her. and ya know, i don't even think she HAD thought about that...I just pray that when i'm married that the word cheat won't even be in our vocabulary.

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  3. AnonymousJune 4, 2014 at 1:12 PM

    My opinion? You did the right thing by going off on her. I find it funny-odd that she would come to you for an opinion knowing what happened in your last relationship. I mean, really? At that point you're just asking for it. And I obviously don't know her but part of me was glad when I read that the husband found out. She deserves the consequences.

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  4. the FlorkensJune 4, 2014 at 1:12 PM

    I don't know your friend, but confession, I am now irrationally angry at her!

    -Kate
    www.theflorkens.com

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  5. SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephJune 4, 2014 at 2:31 PM

    All of my friends know not to ask me anything unless they want my honest opinion. If that means putting them on blast, that's what that means.

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  6. AnonymousJune 4, 2014 at 2:55 PM

    damn, this IS crazy. i have very strong feelings about cheating on your spouse and i think you did the write thing by saying what you did to her. ugh. terrible!!

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  7. AnonymousJune 4, 2014 at 3:53 PM

    You absolutely did the right thing in not letting her off the hook for her actions. You're right — other people will be attractive, of course, but you take vows for a reason! I can't even believe she would expect you to, what, relate to her or something? Jeez. That's a lotta nerve, I gotta say!

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  8. Kate @ Another Clean SlateJune 4, 2014 at 4:36 PM

    What did she expect? Did she want you to condone her behavior? What an idiot. I actually have had a friend NOT telling me she was cheating when everyone else knew because she knew I was so against it and wouldn't be able to hold back.

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  9. Kay R.June 4, 2014 at 4:40 PM

    I have a sharp tongue too. So I dont regret what Im going to say. your friend is dumb as rocks.

    But you my friend get several points for calling her out! That's a true friend right there!

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  10. Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMeeJune 4, 2014 at 7:42 PM

    Oh man. You were far more diplomatic than I could've been! Sounds like she just likes attention!

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  11. Pleas(e) and CarrotsJune 4, 2014 at 8:17 PM

    OMG I wouldn't even know what to say/how to process that either!

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  12. MicahJune 4, 2014 at 10:03 PM

    You handled this way better than I think I would have. I think I would have listened and held back my opinion...but it sounds like she needs a huge reality check.

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  13. Crazy Shenanigans-JMOJune 7, 2014 at 2:12 PM

    I would have reacted the same way. I actually probably would have been worse. I would have said that then got up and left and never spoke to her again.

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