Thursday Bug- Birthday Dinner Blues

Sometimes it helps to share with others what bugs your mind.

They may have a solution, a kind word, or a smile of encouragement.

This week my thursday bug is:

People keep pulling out of my birthday celebration.

Or not answering, which I think is far more rude. Seriously, I'm inviting you to join me in celebrating my special day. To not even respond...in this day when there are sooo many modes of communcation, is just beyond me. Especially since I'm asking you to please respond so I can make reservations. If you can't come, just tell me. I mean, I invited you becuase I consider you my friend, so why wouldn't you just tell me? I'm a fairly reasonable person. And I'd rather you tell me than just leave me hanging. And don't make me hound you. I've had to say to like 3 people "soo I haven't heard from you...are you able to make it?" I don't like having to do that, but I did it because I really want to see and celebrate with you. And one of those people was like "I'll let you know love!" Now...if you are married (not a great excuse, but will get some acceptance from me), or have children (because it would involve finding a babysitter or something), that would be acceptable. But just saying that to shut me up is not acceptable. Especially when you don't actually let me know anything. That's just lame in my opinion. And you are not being a very good friend. And putting "love" at the end of it doesn't excuse you either.

Some people can't make it because I gave late notice and they have other plans. FINE! I get that! But I'd rather they say that than "I'll let you know" or nothing at all! (And for the person who has something else they must attend but is still making the effort to come- THANK YOU! You.Are.Fabulous! And also to my favorite vegans- I know I didn't pick a very veg-friendly restaurant. THANK YOU for making alternate plans with me!)

But ya know what bugs me even more than not getting a response or getting blown off? Cancelling last minute. Ya know why? Because I emailed saying let me know if you are coming so I can make reservations. Therefore if you cancel last minute, I have to change that reservation. And sometimes (like in my case) the place I  choose is dependent on how many people RSVP. I wanted to have my birthday dinner at one place. But because of the number of people who RSVP'ed, I had to change it because if you have groups over a certain size, it is mandatory that you get a $45 3 course prix-fixe menu (and that doesn't include tax, gratuity, or taxes). I don't want to lock my guests into such a pricey dinner. If they want to order an expensive dish, let them, but I don't think everyone should be forced to pay at least $60. So I had to change my place to accomodate more people, and now 4 people pulled out. 4. Two the day before and two on the day of the dinner. Seriously???

I feel a little better. Le sigh.

Wee Bit of Me Wednesday

{one} if you were granted three wishes, what would they be?

Other than trying to save the world, end world hunger and all wars, etc, etc...
-be financially "comfortable" for the rest of my days
-good health for me and my loved ones for the rest of our days
-more time
{two} who is your favorite author?
I don't think I have one

{three} what crowd were you involved in during high school?
the musical, choir crowd (which was the same as the nerds)… for the most part.

{four} what is your favorite thing to do when you have time to yourself?
watch my favorite shows, blog (reading and writing), talk on the phone, read mags (don't laugh C!)...

{five} do you have any hidden talents?
I'm really really good at procrastinating, but that's not well hidden! I was great at the sax, but I haven't played in years so I don't think that still counts.
{six} can you fake any accents?
not well.
{seven} have you ever been mentioned in the newspaper?
several times, in several different newspapers. For dance, school projects, special events, and tennis.
{eight} have you ever been arrested?
nope.

{nine} what is your favorite job you’ve had?
Special Events Coordinator and Student Life Coordinator
{ten} do you have any scars?
Not any big, scary looking ones.

Wednesday Want It: Got It! The Diamond Bracelet

"Sometimes I'm confused by what I think is really obvious. But what I think is really obvious obviously isn't obvious." - Michael Stipe

Tunery Tuesday: The Daylights- I Hope This Gets To You

I just thought this was too cute to share. (Shut up C, I don't care if it's a true story or not- i BELIEVE!)Plus, I like the song. Enjoy!


On Nov. 28, Walter posted this video for his girlfriend who was moving across the country to Duke University for grad school. He tweeted about it, hoping that it would organically make its way across the web to her; their friends weren't allowed to say anything to her. On Dec. 1st, his message reached her.

It's Monday

Questions:

1. What is your favorite kind of cheese?
On sandwiches, American. But love mozzarella and Parmesan as well.

2. What size is your bed?
queen. that's one of the best things about vacation- we always get a king size- more room to roll around!

3. What is your most overused phrase?
"Like"... very Valley-Girl of me I know. I'm working on stopping that.

4. Green or purple grapes?
Green and seedless.

5. Shower, morning or night?
I used to be a night time only girl, because that way I could take my time, and I love sleep in the morning. But now I always take a shower in the morning because it really does help wake me up. And feel clean. But I still wash my hair at night because it's thick and takes forever to dry and I don't like leaving my house with wet hair unless it's the middle of summer.

(1) Who would play you in a movie?

I guess Zoe Saldana because she looks slightly similar. Jessica Alba because she's goofy but sweet and cute. And hot.  

                                                                                                       

                                                                               

(2) Are you a good speller?

Usually, though you would never know it from reading my blog! I'm not great at remembering to use the spell check. Usually when I'm blogging I'm at work (shhh!) so I'm in a rush, or I'm tired (like right now!)

(3) Have you/ do you smoke cigarettes?

Plea the 5th...

(4) Have you ever won a trophy?

Many (not to toot my own horn..toot toot!) I've won for dance, cheerleading, soccer, basketball, and tennis. I used to be athletic. I won a trophy for "Most Musical" in Miss Pre-Teen New Jersey. Oh I also won one for "Best Speaker" on debate team. Actually it wasn't a trophy, it was a gavel. Hahah.

(5) Have you ever written (or started to write) a book?

No. But I have considered trying to get one of my journals published. There's some good stuff in there!

1. What's on the top of your holiday wish list and why?!
A NookColor e-reader. And I'm getting it! It's a double birthday/Christmas gift. I want one because I commute a lot and it's way lighter and less cumbersome than carrying books around. Plus, it has WiFi, which means I can read all your lovely blogs on the go!

2. What is your favorite Christmas gift from the past?
That is a VERY hard question. I got a car once, when I was 17. That was pretty amazing. I got a digicam 2 years ago, my first ever. Last year I got an iPod, which, like the e-reader, is awesome because it's pretty boring commuting with no music. I also love the time I got a "Little Blue Box." And my first pair of diamond earrings. Oooh, and this year I also am getting a gorgeous diamond bracelet!

3. If you had life to do over, what would you be when you grow up?
I still have time! Unfortunately, I have no idea what I want to be anymore. I like working in higher education, so maybe a Multicultural Recruiter/Admissions person. Or guidance counselor in a high school.

4. When do you put up your tree?
Today. But a little late for that! Hopefully sometime this week or next Saturday.

5. What is your favorite Holiday?
Christmas and 4th of July. Christmas for giving/getting presents, the 4th for food, great company, and warm weather. Oooh I love New Years too, because it's a time of new beginnings.

Tonight: I went to check out a couple of spots for my birthday dinner. Now I'm home watching Sex and the City with a cold one, and eating dinner soon.

Tomorrow: I plan on getting my birthday dress altered, getting my new beautiful diamond birthday present bracelet altered (it's too big), going to Children's Place to get some cute clothes for my godson for Christmas, and going to the State Theater in New Brunswick to see some of C's students perform at Slam: Falling Sideways. I have absolutely no idea what this performance is...is it dance? hip hop? poetry? acrobatics? gymnastics? a play? a musical? I have no clue. The little promo card we got from his students is not helpful at all.

Sunday: Going to Hoboken to a friend's house for our annual Girls Football Day for our girls football league. A day of eating, drinking, and watching football...a true Sunday Funday!

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It's Friday! I love Fridays! I just saw this clip of David Beckham....I love his accent! Here's a Friday Funny for ya! Have a great weekend!

Sharing is Caring

I saw this over at Shelley's "Hand in Hand" and it looked like fun, so here's some info on C and I!

1. What are your middle names? Mine is Melanie, his is Anthony.

2. How long have you been together?
2 years and 2 months on Dec. 25!

3. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We knew who each other were for about 4 years before we started dating. One of my best friends from college was dating his best friend/roommate. We met at my friend's birthday party, and would continue to see each other annually at her birthday parties until 2008. This is one of the first pictures I have of him, taken in July of 2006 at him and his roommates' annual "July 4th Jimmy Jam". He the one on the near right.

(and look, he's wearing sunglasses so i don't even have to black out his eyes!)

4. Who asked who out? He asked me out officially at his friend from home, David, 's wedding. While we were dancing. Very romantic <3

5. How old are each of you?
I will be 27 this month, and C just turned 32. I like older men!

6. Did you go to the same school?
Nope

7. Are you from the same home town?
Nope. He's from Cenrtal Jerz, I'm from North Jerz. As his friend likes to say, "Gotta get the good ones up north!" Damn skippy.

8. Who is the smartest?
I think he is. He knows a lot on a lot of different topics.

9. Who majored in what?
I majored in Psychology and he majored in History and Education.

10. Who is the most sensitive?
Probably me.

11. Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
I think Hawaii. We went for our friend's destination wedding. Though that will be beat next year when we go to India for the two that got us together's wedding! I love our friends!

At The Old Lahaina Luau in Maui, HI

12. Who has the worst temper?
Him. Hands down!

13. How many children do you want?
I would like at least one...2 depending on how painful the first one is. I think he wants 2. Not sure. We'll see when we get there!

14. Who does the cooking?
Ha! Him! Otherwise we would surely starve!

15. Who is more social?
I am, for sure. But he likes hanging out in small groups with close friends.

16. Who is the neat freak?
Neither. But I am the one usually the one who keeps things tidy and nags him to at least put away his clothes!

17. Who is the most stubborn?
He is. But I'm a close second.

18. Who wakes up earlier?
He does. Always. He takes for.ev.er to get ready in the morning!

19. Where was your first date?
Hmmm. I believe the first actual date I almost stood him up. We were supposed to meet at the Museum of Natural History. I was really, really, late, and he was apparently tired of waiting out in the cold for me, so by the time I showed up (at the wrong museum...at least an hour late), he was in a cab heading to the train station, about to go back home. But he still met me, outside Radio City Music Hall. Then we got a bit to eat, and went to a different museum (possibly the MoMa?) and we watched a movie at the museum. At the end of it he was like "They didn't talk a lot." He was right, because it was an opera!!

20. Who has the bigger family?
He does.

22. How do you spend the holidays?
I usually do both my mom and his family, sometimes in the same day. But I think he's going to have to start joining me before my mom start to feel jilted.

23. Who is more jealous?
Me, even though he doesn't give me a reason to be. I think he finds it amusing when others flirt with me.

24. How long did it take to get serious?
Not long at all. It was a matter of weeks. <-- Ditto!

25. Who eats more?
He does.

26. What do you do for a living?
I work as an office manager at a college, and he is a high school History teacher.

27. Who does the laundry?
I do it. Sometimes he helps me fold though. And he has to make the bed when I do the sheets, because he's very particular about it and I can't deal with his fussing.

28. Who's better with the computer?
I think I am.

29. Who drives when you are together?
Being that I don't have a car and he hasn't taught me how to drive stick shift yet, he does.

30. What is your song?
He thinks it's "Kiss u Thru Da Phone" by Soulja Boy. Ugh. I don't even like that song. But before we were living together he lived almost 2 hours away, so we would only see each other on weekends and sometimes once during the week, so he would give me kisses on phone calls. And then the song came out. We need a new song though.