Did you ever have a "wish list" of what you would want in a significant other? I remember making them up with my friends when we were younger, and having ridiculous requirements like "must be 6'0"" or "must love dogs" (actually, that one still applies). What I mean is that they were never real deal breakers in a potential relationship. Now that I'm single and looking, there are certain aspects that I certainly keep an eye out for. I don't expect to find someone with all of these traits because no one is perfect, but these are some qualities that are important to me:
Taller than me: I'm 5'2", this should not be hard
Reader: I read, so it would be nice if you do as well; we don't need to read the same things, but an interest in reading would be a plus
Cooks: because I can't very well
Tips waitstaff: this is just common courtesy
Funny/silly/makes me laugh
Tummy rubs (only during shark week)
Caring/no cheating (didn't know this had to be stated, but I don't want to leave anything out)
Wise with money
Protective (not to be confused to possessive)
Likes to travel: I love to travel; having someone else who likes to travel and enjoys exploring other cultures/cities would be a definite plus
Passionate
No kids preferred
Able to communicate effectively/easy to talk to
Willing to go out of comfort zone
Gets along w my friends and mom: I didn't realize how important this one was until my last relationship. If you cannot get along with my friends and/or have no interest in meeting the most important people in my life, you don't belong there
College educated
Steady job
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Did you ever/do you have a list?
i'm surprised at how many people are mourning the linkup!
ReplyDeletei had some dealbreakers in a significant other: no bad kissers, no virgins, had to be taller than me, had to have ambition (ie. not a bum!).
Yep, some of these are definitely on my list too. But I also have weird ones like "won't eat the last of anything in my cabinets/fridge" and "won't think it's weird when I don't want dessert at the restaurant but will take me for ice cream 20 minutes after we leave" and "willing to watch documentaries and foam roll with me on a Friday night".
ReplyDeleteI can't believe confessions is over. :( Clearly I've been AFK for way too long :(
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with this list. I've made a time or two myself.
Yes to all of these!! Especially tips the waitstaff- I was on a date once and he left no tip. I was mortified, plus it's like WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU??
ReplyDeleteI like your list. I mainly like someone who is kind and who makes me laugh.
ReplyDeleteI never had a ton of deal breakers aside from your standard honest/no cheating/sense of humor.
ReplyDeleteI don't think I ever really had any deal breakers... although I guess I could never get serious with someone who wanted kids because I absolutely do NOT want them.
ReplyDeleteI think I have a wishlist (things that would be ideal, but aren't necessary) and some definite dealbreakers and you nailed a lot of them on your list.
ReplyDeleteAfter my ex, I said I would only date people over 30- but then I met my boyfriend. Oops!
ReplyDeleteGreat list! I agree with everything on it. In terms of height, I'm always uncomfortable if they're under 5'10 because I think "If we had kids, will they reach the top shelf?" and if the answer feels like no, it bothers me lol
ReplyDeleteI use to have a list but then when you meet the right person that has everything you want you just know it.
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